Boundaries are very important. Without them we'd be like a person with an unlocked door in a bad neighborhood. I have learned that some people have very high boundaries while others have lower. Neither is bad or good, it just works for each person.
The woman I work next to has rather high boundaries; higher than mine. To her, she's here to work. She doesn't make small talk, she doesn't engage people in conversation. So for her the boundaries are high and I'm sure that works for her. Some people really have to be that way because they can get confused. You know what that looks like, a person you know on the job suddenly wants to be your best friend and wants to hang out with you on the off time. If you do that, then how do you act? What if you're a drinker? What if you embarrass yourself around them? Will they tell other people at work? Will they tell the boss? What if you're the boss?
The thing is, people need human connection, it's nice to be connected to others, however as you get older, you learn that there are some things you can't share with everybody; there are parts of yourself you have to keep buried around some people. I know a lot of folks in the self-help field say, "you're as sick as your secrets." True. But there is a time and a place for everything, including secrets.
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